What is a Crisis of Nothingness? It is the state of having a dullness or indifference for something that you once held in high regard. With respect to marriages, nothingness creeps in over time when our focus becomes blurred with illusions of the truth and our motivations are selfishly skewed. Nothingness is not about resentment or anger, but is more toxic to a committed relationship because of its idleness and extinction for concern. Resentment and anger involve us using our emotional mind. Even when we think we could never forgive our spouse for a transgression against us, the fact that we become emotional about it means that we care on some level about that person. The absence of emotions is a hallmark trait in all crises of nothingness.
So have you and your job lost that loving feeling? Can you think back to the last time you felt passionate about your job? Is the only motivation you have when you punch the timeclock knowing that in eight hours you get to go home? Dullness, like in a marriage, can ruin the relationship that you have with your job. I’m not saying that it will never happen, but I am saying that you need to know when the feelings you once had about your job and career have retreated.
Now, think back to that married couple that you admire. The next time you see them ask the question, “What did you do to energize your marriage during those times when it became unemotional”? The answers may vary tremendously, but the point of the question is not to determine if the dullness crept in, but that the great relationships recognize it and fight back. Whether your career has stalled or you just need a little extra encouragement, understanding how to thrive in place is a great way to avoid an apathetic approach to you job.
Thriving in place in a humbling approach in a fast paced world of climbing corporate ladders. To the world our worth is calculated in status and great accomplishments. But how reasonable is it for us to have an attitude of “all or nothing”? 160 Million American tax payers go to work each day and are led by 10,000 CEOs. That means that 159,990,000 of us have fallen short of the “World’s Expectations”! Crushing dreams isn’t my intent, but seeing people become defeated and disconnected in their current positions is a reality that needs to be addressed. The workforce is in a crisis of nothingness because of unrealistic expectations that anyone who isn’t the “top dog” is a lesser employee. Perceived or actual, the result is a workforce that becomes apathetic and dull for the job that it once loved. The best married couples always bring out the best in each other, especially in the disappointing seasons in our lives. Those couples always find a way remember the reason they are together and redefine prosperity and put disappointment into perspective for what really matters.
Marriages are all different and mature in different ways at different speeds. Our professional maturity in our jobs is dependent on having an attitude of remembering our love for our career decision, reminding ourselves to fight the apathy, and transform ourselves into employees that can thrive in place. The crisis of nothingness is not new, but is infecting more and more people in the workplace. It’s time for somebody to take a stand and fall back in love with their job.